Dating and marriage customs in afghanistan updating cupboards
If the boy has chosen his bride, he informs his family of his interest in marrying a particular girl.If the bride is of the same community, the father of the groom may make enquiries about the girl, her character, beauty and family background.The Nikah will be performed and the court may also register the marriage.The girl is plighted for marriage at the age of ten even though the actual wedding ceremony may take place when she turns sixteen. If no suitable first cousins are eligible, then the parents of the bride look further afield for a suitable groom.
Engagement is an essential part of Afghan marriage customs.
The age, looks, education background, his ability to support his wife and family background are taken into consideration while short-listing the possible grooms for the girl.
The women folk then hand over the task of finalizing the groom to the men folk in the family.
The bride’s family hosts a meal and then the request for the hand of the girl in marriage is formally made to the father of the bride by the father of the groom.
The groom is then accepted by the father of the bride as “his servant”.
The groom is also expected to bear the wedding expenses.