Chinese dating white men
I didn’t respond, hoping she would get the hint (she didn’t). I started to wonder why I kept running into people like these. After years of exploring topics of discrimination and the experiences of Asians living in the west, I’ve come to realize that regardless of where I was or how I presented myself, I’d inevitably encounter people who hold racist biases against Asians while disguising themselves as allies.
One of the most common attempts at camouflaging just so happens to be dating an Asian person.
“I can’t be racist, I’m dating/married to an Asian!
” Let’s be clear, being racist and dating a person of color are not two mutually exclusive things.
Just hop online and scan through comment sections or forums on platforms set up as safe spaces for Asians to share their experiences.
You’ll start to see quite a few comments like these: “As a white man married to an Asian woman, I find what you say highly racist towards white people.” “As a white woman married to an Asian man with half-Asian children, I don’t see why Asians are offended by this.” While everyone has a right to their own opinions, white partners who say these things — especially on platforms dedicated for POC — are attempting to delegitimize individual experiences of racism.
I believe they are largely emboldened to express these views because they are able to hide behind their romantic partners.But of course, the taxi driver was not alone in assuming this status.Two years ago, I was at a small house gathering in college when I decided to step out for some fresh air.While I admittedly question the logic of these Asian men and women who choose to stay in such relationships regardless of the clear lack of respect or even the most basic understanding, it’s not my place or anyone else’s to tell another person who they should date.In general, I don’t view interracial relationships as problematic – like with most situations, it’s the select few that exhibit toxic traits.
As much as I would love to say that we live in a post-racial world, that would be a blatant lie.